Get to know a side of Christianity you probably never knew existed…
Get to know a side of Christianity you probably never knew existed…
Readers note: I have no stats. I have no polls. I just have raw information and mental notes from my 4+ years of ministry, and what I have witnessed in the lives of youth pastors around me. Take this as you will…
He’s the other guy…
Yeah, he’s a pastor but he’s not “the” pastor…
“Oh, is that your pastor? He’s kinda young.” … “No, he’s the guy that babysits the youth”…
One of the most sought after, yet looked down upon, positions on a church staff is the position of the youth pastor. No one staffer is judged so much on their ability due to sex, age, married status, or culture (music, dress, etc…). No other staffer has a shorter life expectancy within a single church (18 months on average). No other staffer is bogged down by ministry. No other staffer is looked down upon so much because of one word in their title; youth.
If your church doesn’t have a youth pastor, but just someone who takes the teens to camp and on trips then you possibly have no idea what I’m referring to. However, if your church does have a youth pastor, paid or not paid, you may be well aware of the life your youth pastor lives daily. The struggle he/ she lives with daily. But, if you think your youth pastor is happy go lucky all the time, and has no problems either with his/her personal or ministry life then OPEN UP YOUR EYES!!!
More then ever walls are being placed around senior pastors to protect them and their families from the problems that arise personally and ministerially. Deacon and Elder boards stand strong to protect their fearless leader. However, downstairs in the youth room, on his computer alone working on next weeks sermon while hashing out ideas for the great kick off bash to school and the ski trip is youth pastor so and so. Drowning in a world of his own sorrow while no one sees the better.
Why is the job so tough for the youth pastor? It roughly boils down to two factors; relate-ability and performance.
Trying to find a youth pastor can become a long and tiring search finding someone who can “relate” to the teens. This relate-ability factor becomes a puzzle trying to connect four valuable pieces together.
As the youth pastor struggles to find the happy medium within all of these characteristics they can often overwhelm their selves by trying to become too much of one thing or the other. What you end up with is a very unbalanced leader. An unbalanced leader trying to please his congregation and teens by what they think he should be.
However, the biggest headache for youth pastors comes on the heals of how well they’re performing. Their performance generally is based off nothing more then numbers. How many teens are they bringing in on Wednesday night? Are they growing? Are the numbers at least staying consistent? What new thing, band, giveaway is your leader doing to bring up these numbers? The congregation, while they wouldn’t admit it, could are less if the teens are growing in their faith. Most just want a larger group jumping around the strobe light before they eat pizza. On the flip side, while most pastors may like numbers to be up they mostly worry about their Sunday message. That’s a whole other blog…
Currently, some of the biggest books in youth ministry are about growing your numbers. If you go to any number of workshops or conferences you will learn the latest techniques for growing youth groups. Youth pastors know about this performance factor and live with the fear of under performing. If numbers decline or drop, leaders fear how this will look to their pastor, deacon, and elders. Fearing for their job youth pastors will grind their minds endlessly looking for a new way to grow their numbers. The fear of performing may shoot them into under performance unwittingly.
When you combine all these factors it’s no wonder the average youth pastor stays at a church for only 18 months. After a year of initial excitement numbers wane and he/she leaves for their next church just continuing this process over and over until they became a senior pastor and stay at churches for only three years!
Senior pastors, parishioners, and pew warmers take head! Help your youth pastor before he/she burns out from ministry overload!
Now go do something to show your youth pastor you love and support them. They need it!
Has anyone ever asked you guys to do something, and you had no idea how to do it? They just expect you to know how to do it. Perhaps your parents, teachers, friends, bosses, or anyone else. It’s really frustrating when you’re expected to do something you have no idea how to do.
I know I felt this frustration as a young Christian back at the church I attended while in high school… I was expected to study the word of God, but I had no idea how to do so. No one had taught me how to carefully read this word we call the Bible. No one explained to me the purpose to doing so in the first place. I understood I needed to do so, but I had no idea why or how I was going to accomplish this feat.
Perhaps, that may be the reason that some of you don’t pick up your word except on Wednesday nights or Sunday mornings. You hear your pastor tell you to study your word, but you really don’t why you are supposed to or how to. If you follow these notes you should see your time with God grow as you can’t help but dig deeper into the word of God.
When you first look at this thing it kinda looks like something you would be forced to read in a college Literature class. Its long, contains lots of weird concepts, and really doesn’t seem that exciting. I know for about the first 8 months after getting saved that’s the way I looked at the word. However, it wasn’t until I sat down and made a plan on how to attack this thing that I really realized just how amazing God’s word is. Tonight, each of us will hopefully make a plan for ourselves on reading the Word. However, first…
A. Why study the word?
You say, “I’ve got so much else to do. Why do I personally need to read the Bible every day? Besides, isn’t hearing my pastor talk about it good enough?” Well you can settle for the pastors in your life hand feeding you the word like a baby with a bottle, or you can grow up and learn to feed yourself.
Those are 5 short, but good reasons to read the Bible. Now you know why, so how do you do it. To begin with, here’s how not to do it!
Understand, those are all mistakes I made, and I can honestly tell you that whenever I made those mistakes I don’t remember learning anything. So now that we what not to do when studying the word how do we go about doing it?
First, get your supplies. It’s not just you and your Bible.
Whatever you do, the goal is to get into the word, and not just merely read it but think about it and meditate on it.
If you have never read “Rome Sweet Home” by Scott Hahn, outlining he and his wife’s journeys into the Catholic Church I implore you to do so! It is a great read. He has many other great books but most of all I love to hear him speak. He speaks of his Catholic faith with so much passion its contagious! Watch part 1/6 of his interview on one of my favorite t.v. shows, “The Journey Home”. For the later parts go to youtube.com and search for Scott Hahn. Enjoy!
I was a child of the late eighties and early nineties. By the morning I was going to the land of make believe with Mr. Rogers, and by afternoon I was reading books with Levar Burton. I was a child of PBS, more precisely KCPT – 19 in Kansas City. Being a child of PBS I also grew up with the muppets of Sesame Street.
Sesame Street is celebrating its 40th anniversary and it has caused me to think back to all of my favorite SS memories.
The memory that comes back most of all was the episode that aired on Thanksgiving Day, in 1988 I believe it was, about the death of Mr. Hooper. What seems so weird is that months previously my uncle died of suicide in the army, but the death of a man, I admired on television daily, meant more to me as a three year old. Even watching this video now brings tears to my eyes.
What’s your favorite Sesame Street moment?
I have often wondered about this and finally wrote it down. Perhaps someone can answer this perplexion of a mystery for me.
If a mother/ father loses a young child to illness, disease, accident, etc… a pastor is quick to assure them that their child is saved because they hadn’t reached the age of accountability (this supposed time where one moment you’re not then the next you are culpable for your sins).
3 questions…
Where is the doctrine of the age of accountability in the Bible?
Also, how can a child go from being saved by Christ because of their ignorance one moment but then become unsaved because of their knowledge the next?
While in their ignorance what were they saved by? If by Christ, how did they lose this salvation or walk away from it when they became accountable?
(This is a post in collection with 100 other posts from Fallibleblogma.com in conjunction with support a Catholic speaker month. For more blogs on some of your favorite Catholic writers and apologists follow this link )
In the summer of 2001 when I was confronted with the Gospel, as a sophomore in High School, I encountered what would become two very important subjects to me; living passionately for Christ and pursuing sexual purity. As my years in High School progressed my fervor for abstinence increased as I became aware of how sexual perversion had flooded the hearts and minds of my friends and classmates. People were throwing away the beauty of their purity for the price of popularity or acceptance. Even sadder, teens from my own church were forsaking their own vows of chastity.
As time grew near for graduation I prepared for another big event in my life; my first time preaching at my church’s youth group. The first topic that came to mind was sexual purity. As I spent weeks preparing for my first sermon I had notes, examples, scriptures, and quotes running through my brain. On the last day at our Vo-tech I knew I had one last opportunity to share the truth about abstinence. In the middle of the lunch room I took my Bible out of my book bag and proclaimed the truth. As I talked about God’s plan for our sexuality the crowd grew until everyone in the vo-tech was there. I spoke for fifteen minutes until the bell rang and continued talking until I reached the High School.
As I look back over those years I remember a handful of us Christians who boldly stood for abstinence and wore our purity rings proudly. Yet, as I think back six years ago my memory of Catholics doing the same was scarce to none. When discussion about divorce, contraceptives, or other doctrine would come up the Catholics were more then willing to talk, however, when asked to be counted upon about sexual purity they were no where to be seen. Even though this was just a tiny percentage of the whole my experience from high school left a lasting effect with me. Years later, as a youth pastor, I could find endless articles and books by Protestant writers; however, no Catholic apologists or authors offered any perspectives on abstinence. Thankfully, in the fall of 2008 this was all changed.
In the midst of testing the claims of the Catholic Church I found myself being drawn to the sacraments, the Fathers, and the Church that Jesus founded. One of the most helpful resources was Catholic Answers and their daily radio show. One of the first episodes I heard was a purity open forum/ question and answer with Jason and Crystalina Evert. The passion Jason spoke with about abstinence and the love Crystalina poured out for young women gave me hope that my new home valued purity as much as I did. I was enthralled as I introduced this Godly couple to my then fiancée. As I looked toward the future I knew the Evert’s would become my go to resource on abstinence and purity.
Jason Evert, born 1976, was raised in a Catholic home. In a 2003 interview with Revolutionoflove.com, Jason states that his spiritual formation took foot his junior/ senior years in high school as he underwent confirmation. His priest and youth leader were major influences in their devotion to the Blessed Lady, the Pope, and the Eucharist. Their own spiritual hunger influenced him to dig more deeply into his own faith. Interviewed by the same website, Crystalina explains that she too was raised Catholic but during her high school years she “decided to do her own thing” and became sexually promiscuous. A torrent that continued for three years until she was forced by her mother to attend a chastity conference and came face to face with the truth of purity.
After graduating from the Franciscan University of Steubenville he spent three months working as an intern for Catholic Answers in San Diego, CA, yet declined a job in order to pursue his Masters Degree in Theology and a minor in philosophy. Upon finishing his degree in 1999 he returned to California for a job as an apologist at Catholic Answers. He has since been working for Catholic Answers speaking to over 100,000 students annually at Colleges, Universities, Junior and High Schools with his wife of six years Crystalina. After meeting at a chastity conference in the Bahamas they began speaking together for a year as an engaged couple. They are regular guests on the radio show Catholic Answers Live and have also appeared on the BBC, FOX News, WGN, and EWTN. Six years ago they were awarded the 2003 Impact Award from the National Abstinence Clearinghouse, with whom they are board members, for their work with teens.
Besides Crystalina and his speaking engagements; Jason is an avid writer. In addition to writing articles for This Rock magazine he has written ten books in all ranging from topics on purity to general apologetics including If You Really Loved Me, Pure Love, Pure Faith, Theology of the Body for Teens, and Answering Jehovah Witnesses.
Today, while working on the speaking route, writing books, and working as full time apologists for Catholic Answers they operate Pureloveclub.com a website devoted to helping interested teens and parents locate information on chastity and other Catholic information.
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If you have been following the 2009 MLB playoffs, and especially the league championship series, you may have noticed the pairings have put teams on opposite sides of the country against one another. In the National League the Los Angeles Dodgers played against the Philadelphia Phillies; while in the American League the Los Angeles Angels are still playing the New York Yankees.
The National League series was uneventful as the Dodgers lost to Philadelphia in a best 4 out of 7 series in game 5. Thankfully, the AL series has been better as the Angels have forced a game 6 in New York tomorrow, and if the Angels win Saturday’s game a decisive game 7 will be played. The AL series has left an interesting paradox for capitalism and green sustainability to fight out.
Because of the travel from New York to Los Angeles and back to New York, the hotel rooms in each city, tickets at each stadium, food and concessions, souvenirs, television and radio ads, parking, and the subsequent partying after the game; revenue is being made. Both cities of New York City and Los Angeles make money from tourism, the teams make money which pay for salaries and hourly workers (besides the multi-million dollar salaries of the players), and Fox makes money from advertisers while ESPN radio does the same. Money is spent, money is made. The economy wins again.
However, the environment doesn’t. When you figure the emissions from plane flights to New York, Los Angeles, and back to New York, emissions from fans driving to the stadiums, trash produced from the fans at the stadiums, electricity being produced by coal plants to power the stadiums, it amounts to a green nightmare!
The debate becomes which means more to us; money being produced to bolster the economy or the accumulating damage being done to the ozone, flora, and fauna. Here are a few solutions I am suggesting…
What do you think the solution is?
Just the facts maam…
Many remember a decade or so ago when the book, Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus was released explaining the differences between the opposite sexes. However, I have a new theory about where men and women really come from. My hypothesis is this:
“Men are from Greece; Women are from Israel”
Even though I have only been married for one month I have learned a lot in this short month. When it comes to relating stories, facts, questions, etc… Jordan and I couldn’t be any more different. The Sunday after we came back home from our honeymoon we sat at dinner with her parents talking about what we did and saw. We both thoroughly enjoyed the Riverwalk and I simply told them the basic facts. However, after twenty seconds of relating what I saw Jordan broke in with her view. She delved into intimate facts about smells, the interaction of people, how food tasted, the sun and moon light, what she wore, and even the parking lot where we parked the Kia.
I had never really noticed this before but as I reflected about it later that evening I thought about the countless interactions with females where we saw or experienced the same thing, yet somehow her experience came off so much more thorough then mine. Funny enough, this is the same quandary that readers of the gospels have had for the last 1900 years. How could this gospel writer see this side of Jesus while this other gospel writer sees a different side of Jesus, yet both of these men experienced the same miracles, and heard the same teachings?
This dilemma is often dealt with when comparing the gospels of Matthew and Mark. Matthew’s gospel, which is the longest, is very detailed listing specifically Jesus Sermon on the Mount, healings, miracles, and other teachings. Yet, when you turn to Mark’s gospel you see the shortest gospel with very few miracles and mostly teachings. Why is this? It’s a matter of who each gospel was being specifically written to. Matthew wrote his gospel to a Jewish audience who wants detailed facts about what happened when Jesus was born, the beginning, middle, and end of his public ministry, and his commissioning of the twelve disciples. However, Mark wrote his gospel to a Hellenic (Greek) audience who didn’t care about the details, but cared more for a broad view of Jesus life. They would want to know more about what he taught then what he did. Jews wanted details; Greeks wanted a wide view.
Thus, after careful consideration it only makes sense that women some time ago migrated from Israel while men spread across the earth from Greece. So the next big theological/ archaeological question is 6,000 years ago were Israel and Greece located next to one another in Pangaea?
Food for thought
While on my Honeymoon the sociologist in me took note of several things in San Antonio and the surrounding regions, at Jordan and my wedding ceremony, and the events leading up to the wedding. Perhaps these are things you have noticed or thought about before. For me, it took a city with more curves than a Billy-goat path carved through the mountains to realize these things. Here’s what I noticed…
Best quote-
Coworker: “Phillip are you staying at a hotel or motel?”
Me: “A hotel. Motels are where you have one night stands.”